We all want to be loved. If the truth be told, we long for love and will go to great lengths to have it in our lives. We also carry within us some pretty grandiose ideas of how it should show up and what it should feel like. Notice the word “should” here. It tell us a great deal about how we really feel about love.

Unconditional love, the glorious, “forever after” kind of love of dreams of fairy tales, can only become real when we set it free from expectations, from all those limiting “should”. Unconditional love is love without conditions, love without rules, lists, even thinly disguise hopes. Simply put, if love is tied to any of these, it will surely disappoint. Our expectations of love limit it. The condition s we place upon it stop it flow.